Being in a relationship is generally considered one of the basic things a human needs to be happy. Why?Is it just because this is the standard set by society? Or is it a more basic, primal urge to be part of a twosome? To be part of a 'we'?
More and more often, I hear and read about especially female singles who claim that being a bachelorette is being free, able to do what you want and with whom you want. That others would like to see them have a boyfriend or maybe even a husband, is in their eyes unwanted pressure to fit the mold.
I'm not just talking about my own girlfriends and other women, this complaint about a society unaccepting of so-called 'happy singles' is very often discussed on tv and especially in women's magazines.
For me, being a part of a 'we', is an essential part of being happy. I love being able to share my experiences on a day to day basis, with someone who has been and will be an observant and participant in my life for a long time.
You could argue that singles have friends and family to play the role of interested, long term observant and participant. But in my experience, there's no one on the face of the earth who knows me better than the one person I talk to every single day. If wanting that for my friends is a crime, than I'm guilty as charged.
